I was reading the masculine mandate and Phillips poses questions men should be able to answer for their wives, but I thought with a bit of tinkering they are questions all spouses should be able to answer about one another:
If I asked you on any given day could you:
1. Tell me what your spouse was doing that day?
2. Tell me what he or she is anxious about?
3. Tell me at least one thing which is weighing heavily on her heart?
4. Share with me one frustration they have at the moment?
If we couldn't answer those questions for our spouse then I think we have to say we need to be living life together and knowing each other better.